In For Men Only, the author say that women’s brains are like a computer that is constantly running multiple applications. A woman can’t just close out an application because she wants to. She may be able to minimize it, but it is still running until it’s resolved. This is why women will be affected by emotions and events years after they have past. This is why women struggle with insecurity in relationships. If we are in conflict, even minor conflict, with someone, this “program” will be running until it’s resolved. And we have little triggers from old relationships that automatically show up in the present. We all have our own little “default programs” that we have to deal with. It isn’t enought to say “I’m a different person. This is a different relationship with a different man.” We always have those little pop-ups invading our day. When a woman asks a man, “What’s on your mind?” and he says, “nothing”, he may really have nothing in his head at the moment. Women ALWAYS have a program or 8 running. All the time. Continually.
This book really does give an insightful look into the female inner workings. I think it would be beneficial for any man to check it out. And ladies, they wrote For Women Only. It gives the same insight about men to us.
It’s good to increase understanding in the ways God made us.