The point is the process

Recently, I visited with a good friend who has had a couple of really hard years. It doesn’t really matter who it was because the same conversation could have been with any one of the many friends I have that are struggling through what seems to be a needlessly long, dark “season,” myself included. I guess Christians call them seasons because, by definition, seasons change. I am assured that these times won’t always be. But I think unless tough times require no more than three months to mature, we need to find a more realistic word for them. Feel free to make suggestions…but I digress.

My friend, we’ll call her Kingsley, said she just wants this time to end. “I’m tired of getting the breath knocked out of me. Why can’t healing be instant? Why can’t Jesus just say “PEACE!” and it be done with? Why does this have to keep going on and on with no end in sight? When do I get to enjoy the good times again?” My heart echoed these groanings back to her. Why can’t our cries of “Enough is enough!” move our Jesus to speak an end to the pain?

Because, it’s not in His nature. And I mean that in the most literal sense. Nothing in the world He created is instant. It’s all a process. The gestation of a seed, the development of a gem stone, the cutting of a canyon – His work is a series of deliberate, calculated steps executed to create a very specific end. How cold. It’s the work of a master artist, a surgeon, a composer – breathtaking artistry in every cloud, leaf, and mountain peak. Why would His work in the hearts of His favored creations be any less intimate? If God took time to carefully design the earthworm, why would He rush through the fashioning of my heart?

This work can’t happen fast because it’s in the process of pain that I learn who He is and who He is making me to be. This is where the ick is pulled out of my soul. It’s in the darkness that the deep healing actually occurs. Ironically, in the same breath I beg God for relief, I curse the pain I go through that’s healing me. I mistake the relief of pain and the return of joy as the cure. But those moments are just the realization of the healing that was accomplished through the struggle.

This is the hope from which gratitude and trust are born. In the hard times, when I beg God to act, I can praise Him knowing that these times bring more Divine activity in my heart than I could ever perceive. And at the end of this season, and there is an end coming, something beautiful will remain.

Endure in gratefulness and trust, sweet friend. He is creating something in you that will take your breath away – and His.

Victory

I haven’t written in a really long time. Well, that’s not entirely true. I haven’t written on my blog in a really long time. My journal, however, is filling up quickly. On the suggestion of one of my pastors, I’ve been writing all that I’ve been thinking and learning in the last month. And on the strong suggestion of a few friends, I’ve decided to leave those thoughts largely between me and Jesus. They may be ready for public consumption at some point, but right now, they are private conversations between a girl’s broken heart and her Healer.

But as brutal as the last weeks have been, God has been speaking clearly to me. In my exhaustion, I cry out to Him for peace and rest, He assures me that this season is designed to bring deeper peace and rest. I am already seeing the freedom He has for me as He gently corrects by illuminating the corners of my soul, and asking me to just let go. Apparently there are many corners needing Divine attention.

Basking in the afterglow of one such liberation, I told Lori that I would like to think that I will never face the pattern of sin that landed me in that prison. And it’s not just about me. I have friends that struggle with sins they wish they didn’t face. I know there are times we are freed from slavery, never to face those demons again. We’ve all heard stories of people who, after meeting Jesus never again felt the pull of anger, drug addition or pornography. How we long to be freed from the darkness in our hearts and to never face it again. And the hope we have is that one day we will be free forever. Come soon.

I was telling Lori about my hope that I will never again struggle with this particular bent of my humanity, fully conceding this was rooted more in a consuming aversion to pain than a desire for holiness. I know how quickly I can surrender my freedom for the familiar yoke of slavery. I fear the day I when I realize I’ve walked right back into the prison from which He rescued me. From the work Jesus has done and is doing in her life, she dropped this wisdom. Hardcore.

“Ya know Cheryl, we all want to live in victory. But living in victory doesn’t mean we no longer face the temptation. It just means that we choose God’s way instead. That’s what living in victory really is. And that is ours everyday.”

He is not a victor who never goes to battle.

To the huddled masses yearning to breathe free, be encouraged. He is faithful to continue protecting us and delivering us over and over. Don’t be afraid. The victory has already been won. And He is faithful to grant us victory until that day when the struggle is finally over.

I sat down to write out what God is teaching me, but read this first. Since it says what I’ve been learning, I figured, “why reinvent the wheel, er, blog.

Taken from http://summanthetes.wordpress.com

He is amazing, this Jesus. Where he goes, people are amazed. They are amazed at what he says and what he does. His words open the minds and hearts of people to see life and God differently. With his touch, physical and spiritual ailments are ameliorated and peace and blessing and grace flow into broken lives. So, where he goes, people are amazed . . . usually.

Some people don’t like Jesus; some even in the days of his incarnation didn’t like him. It isn’t that they weren’t taken with him, personally; that he wasn’t a compelling individual. They didn’t like him because . . . well . . . because he did life so very differently than they did.

That’s the rub. Jesus rubs me wrong, at times, because he doesn’t do life the way I chose to do life. And when we end up at odds, I’d prefer for him to see things my way . . . even though, in truth, his way of viewing and doing life is the way it should be.

As Jesus continued to care for people and speak to people and meet their needs, some of the religious people of his day decided he needed to be confronted. They questioned him; they sought to prob his motives. They challenged his thinking; they sought to put him on the defensive. But, time and again, Jesus graciously invited their questions and sought to engage them in discussion and dialogue. Even with his opponents, he was gracious. But every once in a while, it seems like Jesus takes a slightly different tack. One afternoon . . .

The Pharisees came out and began to argue with Jesus, seeking from him a sign from heaven, to test him. Sighing deeply in his spirit, he said, “Why does this generation seek for a sign? Truly I say to you, no sign will be given to this generation.” Leaving them, he again embarked and went away to the other side. (Mark 8:11-13)

They weren’t merely asking Jesus a question; the word used to describe their approach means they were being argumentative. They were “testing” him; they wanted to subject him to their personal agendas for approval. And Jesus responds to their attempts to test him.

Jesus sighs deeply; this is the only time in the New Testament this particular word appears. It’s a deep, from the bottom of ones soul, kind of sigh. I don’t believe that Jesus is angry or exasperated or peeved; I think it is more the sigh of sadness and sorrow.

You see, Jesus has just, publicly, fed four thousand; everyone knew, even the religious leaders would have at least heard about that “sign,” that miraculous moment. And just after this dispute with the religious leaders, Jesus is going to heal a man of blindness. Clearly, they can’t have missed his countless healings, his gracious works of deliverance and restoration. Sign after sign has already been done; and more will be forthcoming.

Jesus sighs because they refuse to see. And, from what Jesus says to them, we might also conclude that Jesus sighs because of what they are pursuing. He tells them that “no sign” will be given to them. What? What of all the miracles he has already done and all those he is yet to do? Are those not signs? Yes! What does Jesus then mean that no sign will be given to these religious leaders?

Perhaps just this–those who are challenging him are seeking to get him to do a particular sign, the sign or signs they want him to do, when they want him to do it, in the way they pick and choose. They are setting themselves up to evaluate and assess Jesus. They want Jesus to jump through their particular hoop. And that is something Jesus just cannot do.

Although he came as a servant, and although he serves, Jesus doesn’t serve so as to gain approval or jump through the hoops others hold out or to satisfy the whims of self-appointed “approvers” of what is really spiritual. Jesus won’t give them what they want.

It’s easy to conclude that those Pharisees were wicked and hard-hearted, self-seeking pompous trouble-makers, and then conclude that Jesus’ exchange with them here has little to do with me. But that would be misguided. Because all too often, more than I would care to publicly admit, I seek to get Jesus to jump through my hoops, to submit to my tests, to do the things I think he should do so that he can win my stamp of approval. I am much more like these religious people than I would care to admit. And, when I take that approach with Jesus, I can be assured of getting the same result that they did. I will not get what I want. Jesus will not capitulate to my demands, he will not jump through my hoop.

I really need to see that, daily! It is so easy for me to just assume that life should go the way that I think it should; I slip into that kind of perspective much too readily. And, looking at life that way, when Jesus does show up in my life, in my days, I tend to “test” him. I want to find out whether he fits the way I want things to go. I challenge him, insisting that he jump through my hoops, doing what I think he should in my life, before I will readily abandon myself to his care and keeping.

But, I really do like Jesus. I really am impressed with him. And in my better moments I set aside my questions, I abandon my test criteria, and I willingly embrace his way of doing life. That really is better. Although it might seem that I don’t get what I want, in the end I do. I get life with him!

Comment on Fox News in reference to SC Governor’s Confession.

I found some dark humor in the fact that the online stream for this press conference was sponsored by Viagra…

(In no way is this situation funny, however, this comment is….)

Two months.

It’s been a really long time since I’ve written. As I attempt to convey my thoughts about the last two months, I have that uneasy, overwhelming feeling you get when you run into someone from high school. You know you should say something. But how do you catch someone up after so much time has passed?

It’s not that I haven’t wanted to write. I’ve actually written several drafts of a post, but get frustrated because after two hours of trying to organize my thoughts I realize I don’t have a point. Or maybe I can’t find the point. This has turned out to be an unfortunate and greatly unappreciated byproduct of being employed. I don’t have 40 hours a week to write. When a job takes up most of my waking hours, it takes up not only time, but mental energy. By the time I get out of work, hit the gym, get dinner, take care of housework (more on that), It’s so late I can’t seem to put anything interesting down. So how do I catch you up after so much time has passed? There have just been too many thoughts and too much context for those thoughts to get them all down in any meaningful manner. But for the sake of heading off any more “why haven’t you written?”s, I will try.

I have a house now. I have no doubt it was a gift from God. The story of how I came about it is quite extraordinary. The last two years of my life have been chaotic. I’ve had to trust my life was still very much under the control of a loving God, despite not being able to see or feel that reality. More often than not, it was a matter of accepting His love despite my lack of trust. But during the events that transpired to allow me to buy my house, God pulled back the veil and allowed me to see His hands orchestrating my life. That was a sweet gift. It was like being given another deep breath before submerging again below the dark waterline.

No one told me how lonely it would be to buy/own/maintain a house on my own. I have to carry the decisions, the financial burden, and the fixing all by myself. It’s overwhelming to figure out how the organize bills, and when to get the chimney looked at, and how to get the grass cut when I don’t have a mower. And the time and energy, and let’s be honest, tears I’ve wasted on shades of blue paint is embarrassing. I probably get asked once a day if I am enjoying my house. I enjoy the screened in porch during thunderstorms. And I love the sound of rain on the metal awnings over the windows. I really enjoy Sunday evening when all of the week’s preparations are over and I make tea and read. But other than that, it’s a house. It’s not a person. It’s a provision for which I am very grateful, but it doesn’t compel my heart.

I think I have the same sentiments for my job. I really enjoy the people I work with. I have a great time talking with people all over the country. And a paycheck, not to mention having something to do with my time, is pretty nice. But for the life of me, I can’t muster up excitement over video conferencing equipment.

I’m grateful for my house and my job. I know they were given to by God, specifically for me at this time in my life. For this time in my life. During a conversation about home decor, I was advised to relax about decorating because it’s not like I will be there forever. Then it dawned on me. I’ve spent my entire adult life biding my time for the next step. I think about the next living situation or getting a job or, dare I say, a relationship. I live with the mentality of a perpetually transient person. And I don’t think it’s fair to say that I am never happy because I am always waiting for the next thing. In fact, it’s been in the midst of my greatest times of instability and uncertainty that I felt the most content. But now I have a mortgage (gulp) and a job in corporate America (double gulp) and I can’t figure out if the quietness in my heart is contentment or resigned sadness. Most of my time and energy are sucked dry by responsibilities, not by things that make my heart feel alive.

If I was being really honest I would admit that I feel like something has broken inside my heart. Let me help you understand. Last week, I sat on my porch watching a thunderstorm declare the power of the Almighty. I sat there without even a desire to go stand under the rain that was falling in sheets. I felt nothing. Last night, I stood stage center as a Scottish band performed mind-blowing rhythms so primal and fierce that one year ago it made my heart race. I felt nothing. It’s like a part of me has shut down. Can anyone relate to this?

It’s taken me hours to get this simple, rather boring post down. And for the life of me, I can’t think of how to make it remotely meaningful to anyone. I am fairly confident that whatever is wrong will get fixed. And I know that renewed freedom and life will come because Jesus knows what’s going on with my heart. And He knows when and how it needs to be healed. But until then, I won’t waste anyone’s time with my feeble attempts at writing. Hopefully it won’t be another two months.

Overheard in the office

I have this customer from Italy. Everytime he talks to me, my ear needs a cigarette.

Overheard

Jesus so made death His bitch.

Three.

I have a three year old niece. She’s is the bubbly embodiment of loveliness. And it’s not just her sweet face. Her heart is open and free in a way that only a child untouched by rejection and hurt can live. She isn’t gaurded in expressing her joy of people. She doesn’t supress her dissapproval in order to fall into line with expectations. She is her true self. Everyday, she lives in fullness of who she is, unaware that one day, her heart will be dimissed. But what I love most of all is how sensitive she is to the reality of Jesus. As much as she has learned to repeat the truths of who He is, “‘Why did Jesus die, Emily?’ ‘Because He loves you!’ And what does Jesus say when He sees you?’ “I love my Emmy!’” (This last phrase she giggles through every word) she already has her own budding relationship with Him.
I was three when I asked Jesus into my heart. It’s my very first memory. I was in the kitchen. My mom was sitting at the table reading. I told her I wanted to ask Jesus into my heart. We prayed. It was September 10, 1981. (Thanks, Mom, for actually writing the day down). When I was eleven, I observed the mental capsity of my three year old cousin, and in my intellectual superiority, I concuded that there was no way I could have understood sin and forgiveness when I was only three. And since I had mastered it at eleven, I re-prayed just to make sure. How badly I wish I could tell that eleven year old that while Jesus loves giving revelations about Himself, He longs for the open heart of a child that just wants to be His. Seeing Emily’s heart open to Jesus is a sweet reminder that He wanted before I “knew the answers.” Yes, Jesus swooped me up early. His I want that one. She’s mine. came before I could even form a proper prayer. I’ve never known a day when WE weren’t.
Has God ever given you just a glimpse of revelation – just enough to awaken you to the fact that you’ve been blind? Being Holy week, there’s been a lot of talk about the crucifiction of Christ and His resurrection. I was singing about the people crying Hosanna as Jesus entered Jerusalem. I always thought that word was a praise word, like Hallelujah. But it actually means “Save us!” The people were asking to be saved from Roman oppression. Within days, their Hosanna! would turn into a vicious Crucify Him! Their voices join the chorus of people throughout history who shake their fists because Jesus isn’t who they wanted Him to be . And even thought I know Him, I’m no better. I sing alto in that choir. Their disappointment turned to murderous anger. He was mocked as a criminal, brutally beaten, sexually humilated,and gave up His spirit while hanging on slintered wood between two theives. We have the benefit of looking at this on the other side of the empty tomb. We see how the Father orchestrated these events because Jesus was coming to free us, not from political oppression, but from what we derserve. As Brian O put it, Jesus didn’t die to make a point. He didn’t die because He was trying to demonstrate how a philosophy is lived out. And He certainly didn’t die as an unfortunate victum of mob mentallity. He died to take the wrath of God on Himself so we wouldn’t have to bare it. He died to take my place. He was my substitute. It was the only way He could make me His.

This is the great story that I’ve known my whole life. And as I stood in the choir, hand raised, not in a fist, but in praise, God’s revelation beamed into my heart like a thin stream of light, just enough to show me I was in the dark.

I have no idea what it really means that Christ died for me. I understand the words. I can recite the theology behind the need for a substitutionary sacrifice. But the full weight of the fact that Jesus died to win me…ME…escapes me. I am somewhere between the three year old me who desperately wants to love and be loved by Him, and the eleven year old that knows too many answers for her own good.

But I want to know. I want to know beyond a formulaic answer. I want to understand His death as more than an response to a question. I want the glory of His personal love for me to grow from that tiny beam of revelation into a blinding light that changes the way I see everything. God be merciful. I want Emily (and you) to know what it means that He chose her and took God’s wrath so her sweet heart wouldn’t have to carry it.

Show me, Jesus.

Somewhere between Manning and Maze…

I was thinking about what it means to be the beloved of Jesus, and that truth being the center of my identity. Whenever I come through a trial, challenge or “season” (so hating that term) I always look to see if I’m more patient, more at peace, less selfish. If I see that I have in fact grown, I thank God for His work in my heart long enough to see my new found freedom become the mark of my worthiness. Desperate to measure up to the standards I assume others hold me to, I manipulate His gracious transformation into my own personal bill board for spirituality.

But after a morning of Brennan Manning’s Abba’s Child, and Shawn’s sermon, I’m thinking that the only question I should bother my overly introspective heart with is, “Am I more convinced of Christ’s love for me than I was before this happened?” After all, if I am more satisfied that He loves me, then it doesn’t matter if I’m still messy inside.

For RFM

I’ve been trying to do something with the thoughts in my head, but I can’t seem to see them clearly. I’m embarrassed by my questions to Him. My faith should usher me past such elementary questions. Why do you have me here? Is this all there is? When will you rescue me? Over and over, He says, “That’s what I’m doing.” Funny. It feels like every place He leads me is a place more lonely than the last, more unsure, and more chaotic. I guess I was mistaken in thinking that the more I walk with Him, the easier it will be to trust, or the faster my faith will quiet my fears. Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be? And since I can’t see with His spiritual eyes that are, no doubt, engaged in what really matters, my gaze wanders off to the earthly, self-absorbed concerns of my life. I find myself prattling on endlessly about trying to find contentment in the place He has me. I cling to the passions He created for my heart, fist clinched and shaking because He has not lead me to a place where I can live them out, 40 hours a week with benefits. In His magnanimous generosity, He has placed small pieces of His heart into mine, and I have honored that gift by crafting them into idols. I kick against His peace because He has chosen something new for me. And I live outside of His blood bought freedom because I demand my life look a certain way. But what if it looked different?

What if I had everything I’ve ever dreamed about? What peace would be inside of me if I woke up tomorrow to a day planned to my exact specification. As I write, Jesus is revealing the darkness of my heart that longs to live apart from Him, to run my own show, to be my own god. He shows me my prison. And I don’t know how to get out.

He’s always sweet to me, though. He never leaves me with a picture of my need for Him without showing me that the passion of His heart is meeting that need, shining light on the darkness, and breaking the chains around my heart. The only picture Jesus has given me (sometimes He speaks to me in pictures) is of a tangled knot inside of me, and His fingers are slowly pulling the strands apart. Too slowly, if you ask me, but He doesn’t ask me. But His pace is more gentle. He is so gentle. Still, I have a pain in the pit of my stomach brought on my the sneaking suspicion that the process of untangling these knots in my heart will be a long and painful one. And I’m not ready to face the complete truth of who I am. I am too quick to be what I know people expect me to be. What will the fall out be if I just stopped? I know I’m not as good as my ideals. What happens if Jesus’ fingers not only untangle the knots in my heart, but also filter out the truth of who I am, destroying the impostor, leaving just me. I fear the deafening thud caused by the disappointment.

I don’t know why I offer this candid snap shot into the life and times of one 31 year old traveler. Please don’t think I write this without cringing at the thought of everyone who will see the truth of who I am inside. There is no pithy resolution coming to neatly wrap things up. In part, I am willing to expose my struggles because someone I love said it helps her to watch me struggle. She meant that in the good way. Partly, it’s because in the end, it’s all His story. I’m just a player, and I can’t withhold displaying His work in my life for the sake of self-protection. Seeing the new me He is creating makes Him look bigger when you realize the mess He is working with. Good heavens, the mess.